Resources that might be helpful on your journey to building intimate, respectful and satisfying relationships.

GLOSSARY OF TERMS

Non-Monogamy

Glossary of Relationship Structures - written by our Senior Psychologist Javiera Dastres.

RESEARCH

The Gottman Institute conducts research and training on relationships. It has developed carefully evaluated therapy models for intimate relationships.

WEBSITES

https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/ - Find out what your love language is with this quiz

VIDEOS

The School of Life YouTube channel has some great psychological and philosophical videos about relationships:

  1. What do you love me for?
  2. Challenges of anxious avoidant relationships.
  3. Why we pick difficult partners.
  4. How to choose a partner wisely.
  5. How to stop feeling nostalgic for an ex.
  6. Intimacy and closeness.

BOOKS

“Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence” by Esther Perel

“The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities” by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy

“The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory” by Dedeker Winston

“Passionate Marriage: Keeping love and intimacy alive in committed relationships” by Dr. David Schnarch

"Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find — and Keep — Love" by Amir Levine, Rachel S.F. Heller

"Breaking Negative Relationship Patterns: A Schema Therapy Self-Help and Support Book" by Bruce Stevens, Eckhard Roediger (Contributor)

"The Handbook of Consensual Non-Monogamy" by Michelle Vaughan & Theodore Burnes

PODCASTS

Are you Secure, Anxious or Avoidant in Love? - The Frae Podcast with Kylie Camps and Dr Sarah Ashton.

Meet Pay Love is an Equity Mates Media podcast hosted by sisters Zoe and Carmel. Focused on the complexities of romance and money. Listen to Dr Sarah Ashton disucss financial red flags on episode 3!

BLOGS

Friendship Break-ups - Faustina Delany, SHIPS Clinical Psychologist

How to Have a Good Fight - Part 1 - Grace Blucher, SHIPS Psychologist & Clinical Registrar

How to Have a Good Fight - Part 2 - Grace Blucher, SHIPS Psychologist & Clinical Registrar

How to Have a Good Fight - Part 3 - Grace Blucher, SHIPS Psychologist & Clinical Registrar

How to Have a Good Fight - Part 4 - Grace Blucher, SHIPS Psychologist & Clinical Registrar

Dating on the Spectrum - Grace Blucher, SHIPS Psychologist & Clinical Registrar

Celebrating Child-Freedom by Choice - Faustina Delany, SHIPS Clinical Psychologist

Intimate Partner Violence - Grace Blucher, SHIPS Psychologist & Clinical Registrar

Part 1: How to Start Talking To your Partner about Non-Monogamy - Javiera Dastres, SHIPS Senior Psychologist

Part 2: How to Start a Non-Monogamous Relationship - Javiera Dastres, SHIPS Senior Psychologist

Part 3: How to Maintain and Non-Monogamous Relationship - Javiera Dastres, SHIPS Senior Psychologist

How to have Conscious, Loving Conversations about Money - Anthea Sullivan, SHIPS Psychologist

Lets Talk About Non-sexual emotional and Physical Intimacy - Javiera Dastres, SHIPS Senior Psychologist

Enabling vs Being Supportive in Relationships - Javiera Dastres, SHIPS Senior Psychologist

The stages of grieving the end of a relationship and how to look after yourself - Javiera Dastres, SHIPS Senior Psychologist

The ethics and ways of telling someone that your're Non-monogamous - Javiera Dastres, SHIPS Senior Psychologist

Different types of attraction - Javiera Dastres, SHIPS Senior Psychologist

How to listen without judgement - Javiera Dastres, SHIPS Senior Psychologist

Infertility and Self-care - Javiera Dastres, SHIPS Senior Psychologist

Unicorn Hunting - Javiera Dastres, SHIPS Senior Psychologist

How To Become a Sex Therapist - Dr Sarah Ashton, Director & Founder of Sexual Health and Intimacy Psychological Services (SHIPS)

ADHD & Relationships - Javiera Dastres, SHIPS Senior Psychologist

Understanding Infertility - Javiera Dastres, SHIPS Senior Psychologist